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Lisa Chen 36 years old and immigrated to Canada from Beijing eight years. nine years old, Lisa's parents divorced, mainly by his mother and grandmother brought ; and her father grew up in rural areas in Beijing. family members often feel anxiety and fear for the economy, but also to Lisa a lot of academic and professional requirements. she have a brother and sister under, very good; as a middle ranking children, Lisa is often brought by their parents compared with others, or even negative. Lisa from college all the way to work, many of her boyfriend after another exchange; to Canada, have also exchanges two boyfriend, but love did not last long, and there the bitter experience of two pregnancies abortion. now, Lisa with a new boyfriend living together, is still a little noisy two days, three days a kicked. mere mention of the boyfriend and the original family, Lisa is always full of complaints and dissatisfaction. at work on, Lisa and colleagues and bosses often conflict. Overall, Lisa is not easy to trust in others, often feel depression, inexplicable nervousness; her heart very lonely, very eager to have a close relationship.

psychological Diagnosis

attachment disorder traits, depression anxiety.

treatment

After a year of treatment, therapist to help Lisa recalls childhood care and certainly the loss of their parents, the resulting trauma and grief, so Lisa will be long-term suppression of sadness, loneliness and other emotions show it. After the therapist to help Lisa recalls her grandmother had a cold fever When night companionship, full of wind, frost, thick lines of the palm, gently touching her hot forehead; Lisa vaguely remember grandmother's eyes filled with pity! a child, her limited experience, and now by the hypnotic psychotherapist guidance to grow again after the eye-screen interpretation of that interaction with the grandmother situation, she found, had the ability, though not of his brother, sister, good, but still, get the unconditional love over grandmother. The aunt, uncle, will not cook some goodies for her to express her concern.

psychotherapist, said: “These were all her growing up” alternative parents “, more or less an alternative to make up for the parents Lisa The failure to provide warmth. such professional hypnosis technique, known as the “age returned to France” and “unconscious reconstruction” (Age regression & unconscious reconstruction), which is recalled in place over the last past a certain stage, the negative thinking to find out, enter the positive positive thinking to change to replace the old experience of trauma.

feelings for Lisa now line psychologist for further help Lisa be able to do in emotional self-contained to avoid over-dependence boyfriend, then her boyfriend will bravely refused to unreasonable demands, rather than continuing the unhappy cohabitation. In addition, therapists also use the empty chair technique, so Lisa imagine his father sitting in front of a chair on how to express themselves heartily looking forward to his father's attention, his father how profound thoughts.

Sometimes, therapists and Lisa will be role-playing to help Lisa projection, reproduce their own childhood true inner feelings, to help Lisa insight into the behavior of their frequent replacement boyfriend is in fact trying to fill the childhood intimacy can not be met. When she identified so their subconscious, they will no longer be ruled over and began to amend, construct a more mature and positive thinking, start the “self-love” power, more self-affirmation, at work, gender relations above principles can be more. Soon after, Lisa's depression and anxiety are gradually eliminated, to enjoy safer warm intimacy.

(taken from the Canadian “star life” of: Dr. Wang stone psychological / Zhu Cuijin family education specialist)